Hi everyone
Welcome back to my blog, it's been a little while since I shared a blog post and recently I had an experience which challenged my Ego and spurred on some inspiration for this post.
So basically, over the weekend I was feeling great, hanging with kids, I'd finished my sessions for the week and all was well, I felt great. Then I logged onto my FB business page and noticed my prided 5 STAR review column had dropped to 4.8, my heart skipped a beat. I then looked through all my reviews and someone had given me a 1 star review, with no comment and no profile attached to it, I couldn't see who or why. My monkey mind kicks in, 'I can't even tell if its from a real client, I haven't had any complaints, no ones reached out, why would someone do this, is someone trying to sabotage my success, i don't have a perfect 5 STAR Rating anymore, someone doesn't like me!'
This Dialogue all happened in the first 10 seconds, lol.
Well, luckily i was able to quickly take a step back, take some deep breaths and dig a bit deeper. As it turns out I'm not the only business this has happened and it seems to be a flaw in FB system where trolls can do this without any form of communication back to address it or it could be a FB flaw. So I had two choices, stew on it or choose it as an opportunity for growth and to let go. Could I choose to value myself anyway? The answer is Yes.
I then did some self clearing on the issue and it went back to being at school, 6 years old, Getting told off in front of the class and what was locked in there was 'They don't like me', along with the emotions of shame, unloved and not good enough. I got rid of that, and replaced it with Self Love. Then the 4 agreements came by Don Migel Ruiz came strongly to mind, they are as follows;
Be impeccable with your word - Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
agreement 2Don’t take anything personally - Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
agreement 3Don’t make assumptions - Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
agreement 4Always do your best - Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.
Basically I used this experience to silence the inner critic, I still don't have all the information as to why this has happened, so I won't make assumptions. I know in my business and work that I always do my best and that I'm honest and approachable. I then took the time to read through the other 18 beautiful and glowing reviews of my page and the lives I've touched. I chose to focus on my worth. How close I came to letting 1 faceless person or maybe even an FB mistake derail my self worth, over something which now feels trivial, interesting how the monkey mind works.
Basically this has given me the opportunity to Choose to love myself regardless if I have a 5/5 star rating or not, 4.8 will do. I choose to focus on the positive and embrace my worth, no matter what. I am human, I am a Free Spirit I am growing, i am learning, I'm not 'perfect' and that's ok. I choose to 100% love and accept myself just as I am, perfect in my imperfection as it may be.
I hope that you can bear this in mind next time your self worth is derailed and love yourself through it too.
Big Love
Jonny Mew